Sunday, February 21, 2010
I taught parenting classes for years before having children. I thought that I knew it all. I didn't know anything. I didn't understand how every child is different and how a one size fits all parenting model doesn't really work. I was going to be a sling wearing, breast feeding super mommy- whose children would never watch television or play with barbie dolls. My daughter hated all slings. (I spent nearly 500 dollars on different models trying to find the right one- she would arch her back and protest loudly in all of them.) Breastfeeding was extremely difficult- and it took everything in me to be successful. Caya loves television- and without television, I would never get any laundry done or be able to make her a meal. Mind you, I am still very careful about the amount of television and the type of television that she watches- but still, I understand that flexibility is really what parenting is all about. Oh yeah, she loves barbies too.
We went to the library today with a very good friend who is also a therapist. Caya didn't want to leave the library, so I whispered in her ear and she said, "okay!" and held my hand as I led her out of the library. My friend commented on how nice it was to see that I could reason with Caya. I admitted that I bribed Caya with a chocolate animal cracker I had in my purse in case of emergencies.
It will be fun to learn more about Leo. Thus far, he loves slings and took to breastfeeding immediately. His temperament is calm and cool and the one thing he loves more than anything is his sister. She can make him laugh like no one else. Hopefully, he will also like animal crackers.
Posted by Deann LMFT at 10:06 PM